Here are some suggestions for practical exercises you can try out for yourself. But first, let’s focus on this one:

Letter of Self-Compassion: Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of a compassionate friend, offering support and understanding.

A Deeper Dive

Writing a letter to yourself from the perspective of a compassionate friend can be a powerful way to boost your self-compassion. It allows you to step outside your own critical inner dialogue and experience the warmth and understanding you might be able to offer someone else.

Here’s how to get started:

1. Set the Scene: Find a quiet space where you can relax and focus. You might want to have a pen and paper or open a document on your computer.
2. Imagine Your Friend: Think of a friend who is particularly supportive and compassionate. Someone who truly sees you and accepts you for who you are. Visualize them sitting across from you, ready to listen.
3. Begin Writing: Start the letter as if your friend is writing to you. Address yourself by name.
4. Acknowledge Your Struggles: Let your friend acknowledge the difficulties you’re facing, the pain you’re experiencing, or the self-criticism you’re battling. Encourage them to validate your feelings and let you know that it’s okay to feel this way.
5. Offer Words of Comfort and Support: Have your friend offer words of comfort, encouragement, and reassurance. What would they say to remind you of your strengths, your resilience, and your worthiness? What kind of support would they offer you in this situation?
6. Remind Yourself of Common Humanity: Have your friend remind you that you’re not alone in your struggles. Everyone faces challenges, makes mistakes, and experiences difficult emotions. This is a normal part of being human.
7. Express Unconditional Love and Acceptance: Let your friend express their unconditional love and acceptance for you, just as you are, flaws and all. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and belonging, regardless of your imperfections.
8. Close the Letter: End the letter with a warm closing and your friend’s signature.

Example Snippet:

Dearest [Your Name],

I know you’ve been really hard on yourself lately about [specific situation]. I want you to know that it’s okay to feel [emotion]. What you’re going through is tough, and you’re not alone in feeling this way. Remember that time when [similar situation with friend]? You were so understanding and supportive then. I want you to offer yourself that same kindness now. You are so strong, so resilient, and so capable. You’ve overcome challenges before, and you can do it again. I believe in you, and I love you, just as you are.

I hope this helps you. Let’s discuss this exercise and others you can do to build self-compassion for yourself. Comment below or go discuss this on the Inspired Voices Forum.